Well, I’m back…. we’re back, from you know, Mexico— a honeymoon. I’m not sure where to start. The past two weeks (and maybe few months?) have felt like such a time warp. Before anything, I should start with a thank you on our big news! All the congratulatory comments, emails, tweets, and whathaveyou’s were such a nice thing to come home to and occasionally find in those rare moments of wifi. Thank you! I don’t have wedding photos (is it called a wedding, if you elope at a courthouse?)… not yet, anyway, but I can tell you in words, we’re very happy we did it. It felt right, just the two of us. No big plans and plan making, just a scheduled trip to Mexico and a “well maybe we can do it before, or there, or after?!” We obviously decided on the before. We woke up bright and early, put on our best outfits, and walked out the door with rings and umbrella in hand. We headed into the courthouse, turned in our papers, and said our vows. We picked up falafel, came back home, and boarded a plane, as a married couple, to Mexico. Simple, us, perfect.
As you can imagine, I have a lot of pictures from our trip. I mean, we were gone for quite a while. It didn’t feel like I took a lot of pictures. Without the need of a phone and with little desire to take out a camera, I rarely took photos, but collectively, at the end of it, a fair amount popped up. So this, this is your warning, the next two weeks or so will be filled with many posts of a simple honeymoon life in Mexico.
We arrived, picked up a rental car, and headed south. Between a tropical depression, flooding (the side walks were gone) and whatever else, we were certain we were in for an interesting vacation. Two days or so in, the rain stopped, the flooding began to clear, and the sun came out and our vacation changed.
In the past few weeks I’ve seen quite a few blog posts on different travel experiences to Tulum (beach). And it just feels or seems to me, that everyone shows the beautiful photos of the picture perfect scenes, but no one really talks about how life is a bit harder out there, and not as easy as it all seems. I mean, I do now know that Tulum can be a very different experience, and it is all what you make of it. But from the campsites, to the jungle, to the pueblo, to the bungalows, to the resorts, there are many different ways to vacation or live out there. We opted for a house, just the two of us, in the jungle. We used airbnb, which for us, seemed fitting. Neither one of us were looking for a catered resort experience, we didn’t know the area or really what to expect, but with the help of our host, Fanny, and my great sense of direction (I’m not being sarcastic here, I have an internal radar map system that kicks into high gear sometimes) we found a bit of our way. I liked having someone who knew the area, who wouldn’t just recommend where the tourist go, and more. The food on the beach of Tulum was expensive— really expensive, we were warned of this. And while we don’t regret splurging (for us) on constant dinners out, we did spend more than we would have liked to spend, but figured, maybe it was okay, and our time to splurge a little more.
A few days into the trip Alex asked me if I would travel back to Tulum. I was a bit thrown off. I never travel with the intention of visiting the same place again. I tell myself to experience as much as I can, because who knows if I’ll ever return. And I’m always, always asking what’s next and where else can I explore. But after some thought, I said “yes, I would.” The second time around would be with Marlowe and with knowledge of how to make our time not just great, but perfect. The second time around, I doubt we would dine out maybe more than a small handful of meals, if hardly at all. We would spend more time at markets and cooking. Basically— we would live the life we want to live there and not just visit. Does that make sense? As simple as it was, we’d make it less expensive and more natural.
We loved our quiet and undemanding time together. No internet, rarely there electricity. If you didn’t know (we didn’t), Tulum (beach) has no land lines– no source of power. If you had power, it was through solar panels or through a brought in generator. We laughed that our biggest luxury was our air-conditioned car. Our home had solar panels, but there were some problems with them, and also (of course) with no sun, there is no light. For me, the bugs were hard, very hard— this is my only and biggest complaint. The air atmosphere was similar to florida, but without the buildings and the pavement of the city, the bugs were constant in the jungle. They left Alex alone mostly, but for me, I was left with swollen welts within minutes of leaving our car. They love me, they really love me! On the other hand, we were pleasantly surprised to find the climate to be much cooler in Mexico. We woke up early, sipped water from coconuts, ate sliced mango, and drank black coffee. We spent as much of our time outside as we could, cooked a meal (always of rice, beans, avocados, and fresh tortillas) or ate out, and ended our night, in the pitch black night, with a few lit candles, sipping on tequila and lime.
It sounds silly, but our trip, it changed things for us. We already live a simple life with little frills, but we want more— more of less. Without saying so, we could both feel the reworking happening. And now back here, in our home, we want to make different changes, together, for our family and our life. I’ve always mostly known the kind of life I want, but now more than ever, I know the only way to my real happiness is to simplify even more. Not minimalism, but simplicity.
I hope you enjoy our photos of our time in Mexico, I’ll be keeping them behind cuts, since there are oh-so-many, and you can decide to scroll through our many, many photos or not. I’ll be posting a ton more, plus some of our own learned tips and favorite places we ate at 🙂 Thank you again, for your kind words. I’m really so pleased to have this space, to document my life and surroundings. It has been a crazy journey, but this place we’re in, it’s good and only getting better.
And for those who asked, “married life”, it’s good, I like it.
for more photos….
our morning routine.
our jungle house.
the ruins of tulum.
*some of these photos are taken on a disposable camera, some on iPhone, and some on my brother’s borrowed camera.