The Problem With Me Blogging For A Living
So you guys may or may not have noticed that in the past few months, I’ve been posting SIGNIFICANTLY less sponsored posts than what I used to do. Like, for a while there I was posting two a week. Now I don’t (and didn’t) necessarily think that was excessive– I personally feel like I always had a decent balance in it. Except for maybe two companies I worked with, I’ve felt very strong positive feelings for every company I’ve posted and stood behind. You guys know I’m never trying to sell you garbage— that everything I post about, I support. I mean, sure I’ve posted about things in the past that I may not necessarily post about now, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t believe in it then. We all change and our insight and minds change as we grow. Whatever, that’s life. From your comments, messages, and from the surveys I did long ago, I know you guys have supported me in my sponsored posts— knowing that I do only share things that I find valuable. And I’m forever grateful for this. Thank you.
Ever since I’ve started blogging as a career, I’ve turned down farrrrrrr more sponsored campaigns than I’ve taken on, I’d say at least 90% get a, “no sorry, that’s not a great fit.” Things have to feel right. Having sponsored posts that are in line with my beliefs not only benefits me– it helps you guys and the companies I work with. You guys don’t want me to promote junk to you. And a company who wants to get their name out certainly intends to know that my readers will well receive their company. I mean, if I started trying to sell you guys lean cuisine or something, we’d all lose it and think (and know) I went off the deep end. Nobody would trust me anymore. You guys would be confused beyond belief. And the company would have no gain promoting in my space when they could have very well went to a blog that is more in line with that sort of thing. (Don’t ask me why I went to lean cuisine. Insert any other of the millions of examples of products or items that aren’t in line with my life. I mean, I don’t even have a microwave, so that example just seems like a great one, haha.)
I want everything in my life to work in a mutually beneficial forum. I don’t ever want to gain from someone else’s loss– in any scenario. I want things to be fair. This has been my belief, to a fault. Even my mother knows it, if I have two people standing in front of me arguing, and the person I love most in the world is wrong, I will say they are wrong. I will choose what is right and what is fair. I want to add something to people’s lives. I want to make an impact and a difference.
There are some wonderful companies I can work without there– but my reach shrinks a bit with each step forward I take. Or rather, my arms close a bit tighter, as I let fewer companies in. I’m excited for the ongoing partnerships I have and the future ones I will take on. I know I’ve said, but I enjoy sponsored posts, is that weird? I mean, yeah, duh, each one supports myself and my daughter, but also because it gives me an opportunity to share amazing companies with you guys that you may not have had the chance to hear of otherwise. I mean, I have been able to discover amazing companies because of it. I can say with 100% certainty that there are companies I probably wouldn’t have heard of if they had not reached out to me– but they are companies I quickly fell in love with and will continue to use and support. Or there are times when I write about products without the company reaching out– just because I’ve personally bought it and fell in love and thought “damn, I think everyone else would like this and benefit from it too.” And yeah, I link it. Because if you guys do take an interest in it, and purchase it, then I make money and in turn feed my kid or pay my bills or whatever. That’s how part of this blogging + making money thing works, ya know?
And it’s just that lately– as my life has been pushing more and more into minimalistic notions, well, I’m wondering how this blogging as a career will work for me. I mean, even as we part with many of our material things, and stop buying new things (not completely, but significantly), I know there are things I will have or use that will be beneficial to someone, somehow. And I know there will be companies that might be a good fit because they are selling experiences and not items— or items that we all need, no matter how minimalistic we are. Like, let’s say soap. As I part with more and more of my things, I don’t ever plan to part with soap, haha. Or even pants. I mean, I want to promote products we need– without having it be this buy buy buy in excess vibe. I feel like I do this, but I’m always striving for more— more of less.
But I’ve thought about this a lot: where do I fit?
Like, besides the obvious fact that I’ve been trying to become comfortable in front of a camera for 31 years, I’m not a fashion blogger. I mean, sure there are companies that I support– I’m always SO grateful to find clothing businesses in line with my beliefs. But regular fashion blogging? Most of the clothes in my closet are 5 to 10 year old+ Shit; I still have clothes from my teen years. So me blogging about this new style or trend? Ha. The only reason I’ve bought new clothes at all in the last five years was because of my weight loss– my clothes were falling off me. I’ll purchase a piece here and there (I bought jeans this week) because I can see the items lasting me a long time– not to link and sell every new trend that cycles through each week. Not that I’m putting that down— I just can’t keep up with that. It feels far from natural for me since I’m not a regular shopper and buyer and I don’t plan to be.
I’m not a home design blogger. I have, and I do blog about home design stuff– because I do love a well-designed home. I find comfort in keeping a beautiful space I want to live in. And keeping beautiful and meaningful pieces is part of that. But the idea replacing items to create a new vignette or style? Oof that won’t work. I like my couch– and I like my couch where it is, and it’s not going to move from that spot.
I could go into every category and tell you why I don’t fit into each box. I’ve written about this before. How I don’t like boxes. I don’t fit in boxes. Literal, physical, or hypothetical. That’s why the “lifestyle” space works. But I don’t know; I guess I’m overthinking, like I always do, but I’m trying to figure out what my next steps are. I’m not saying I want to stop blogging, not by any means. But I do want to try to find something else. Something more. In addition to this.
Almost two years ago to the date I bought ohdeardreams .com. I had plans to start a company of handmade goods. I wanted to donate 30%+ the profits back to communities that needed it. I was doing the back end, planning, everything. I was excited to go to India and start meeting with people to source goods. That was going to be my first step. A week after India my life changed forever. The sickness came and the next two years, up until now— and even now, I’ve spent my time trying to heal myself. All goals I wanted to achieve had to stop. Everything went on hold. And slowly my plans have changed as my life has changed. I haven’t written off the idea entirely, but I’m just trying to refocus and re-plan. What else?
I’m not sure. But I want to find some other way to supplement my income while living this wild and crazy life. Taking on less sponsored posts, just as I have been doing— and doing more, of something else. I have ideas. SO many of them. I just need to plan and refine. I just feel so lucky beyond belief to have this community to make a living doing what I love– but I want to build something bigger and contribute more. Because I have more than what I need, but it’s not enough for me, because I want to be giving back more.
I’m not sure where I’m going with this. I just want to say; I’m trying to figure out this space more. I’ll still be doing sponsored posts, just a lot less. I want to do something else, something more. And I do plan to keep this space up and running— and documenting all the things I love best and-and sharing my life lessons and things I’m learning along the way. I always hope to bring insight or knowledge or hopefully an inspired way of living to this space. I hope to continue reaching people through this space– supporting through single parenting, or diet changes, or illness, or even just the day to day– whatever. I hope I can continue to do all that— and find a way to sustain my life and my income while I do more… and consume less.
Thank you for always supporting me. You being here supports me in so many ways. In ways, you can see and ways you can’t. Food on the table, medical bills, and so much more. I am undoubtedly grateful that people care enough about my life to even come here at all, and especially every day. I hope to one day (soon) find a way that I can use this platform to not only support myself but many others too. I just want to put that out there. I want you to hold me to it.
Hold me to it.ps. almost three years later, THIS post is still my life motto. An unfussy, happy life for sure.